“WHO CAN FIND A VIRTUOUS WOMAN...”
You may have read the scripture about her dozens of times. The verses are highlighted, flagged and tagged in your bible and perhaps taped to a mirror somewhere in your house or car. Women often allude to her when describing themselves, men say they look to see evidence of her in their potential wives, and there are articles, books, and websites (like this one!) that are partially dedicated to helping them to be more like her.
Who is she? Why she’s the Proverbs 31 Woman, of course! She’s the woman many try to represent when they call themselves “A woman of God.” We know a lot about her from the epilogue that describes her in the book of Proverbs and whoa, was she phenomenal or not? As awesomely as she is described though, the thought of filling her shoes is a bit…well…overwhelming.
Not to fear, The Virtuous Diva has broken down, in our interpretation, what we hope simplifies what it means to be a “Proverbs 31 Woman.” And while this is by no means an exhaustive list of qualities, or the “100% guaranteed” definition of what she represents, we think we’ve come up with a pretty nice list of attributes you may want to consider when you think of her and what she stands for.
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the and.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Attributes of the “Proverbs 31 Woman”
Trustworthy (v.11) her husband has given her his complete and total trust and confidence. He isn’t worried about her cheating, lying or stealing from him, this girl is has her man’s full confidence.
Pleasant Attitude (v.12) so she is of good character and spirit, she submits to her husband and she is wishes to treat her husband and family well, everything that comes from her to them is filled with love and goodness.
Hardworking (v.13, v.17, v. 18, v. 19) the scripture alludes several times to her industrious, diligent nature and her willingness to work hard.
Concerned about the well-being of her family (v. 15) she takes the time to prepare the things they need as well as making sure that provisions are supplied for those that work for her. Her kids aren’t running out of the house on the way to school with empty bellies or looking unkempt. Homegirl is up early in the morning, making sure everyone has what they need.
Wealth builder/Investor (v. 16) she might have a man with a six-figure salary, but she is not solely reliant upon him, she considers her own investments and wealth building.
Entrepreneurial (v.18) she makes and sells products, she is a business woman!
Generous (v.20) she gives to those in need, she is concerned about the condition of the poor.
Prepared (v.21) she knows that her children will need sandals in the summer and coats in the winter, she anticipates their necessities and she is not caught off guard when the time comes.
Regal (v. 22) although, the woman in this scripture was actually of a high social class, being ‘regal’ is not just about social standing and money, but also pertains to the way we carry ourselves. We are daughters of the King of King’s, and we should act like it!
Good sense of humor and strong (v.25) she carries herself with dignity and strength. When she thinks about what might happen in the future, she can laugh, she doesn’t sweat the small stuff or take life too seriously.
Wise and Discerning (v. 26) she is a woman who has wisdom, she does not speak or act in foolish a foolish manner. This is not the woman you see flipping out on the cashier at the grocery store over a coupon being expired. This isn’t the girl that is disrespecting or demeaning her man publicly. She’s not the mom who comes to her child’s school dressed in a mini-skirt, a halter top and six inch heels. No, she is discerning, she is thoughtful of her speech and actions, and she is very considerate of how she makes decisions.
In touch with her family (v. 27) she is in constant communication with her children and husband and all that concerns her home. She knows where they are, who they are with and is not caught up in things that will distract her from the matters of home, nor is she allowing room for the enemy to come and make his home in hers. She does not “eat the bread of idleness” which means she is not lazy, sitting around doing nothing. She has work to do, she is about God’s business!
Revered by husband and family (v.28) have you ever seen a family whose members talk to and treat the head lady just any type of way? Well not this sister! Her man and her children have the deepest respect for her, and they should! She does a lot to make their house a home, along with loving them, clothing and feeding them, and keeping them well.
The Lord is the head of her life (v. 31) this is the biggest one ladies. Even in the midst of all that this woman does, she keeps the LORD at the top of the priority lists. She makes time to pray, read His word and listen to His gentle voice as the guide for her life. Not even her husband or children, whom she loves dearly, are permitted in interfere with the relationship she has with her Lord, because let’s face it…if we don’t keep God first, we can’t expect to realize any real sense of happiness or fulfillment in our lives.
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Below is an excerpt of the 31st book of Proverbs verses 10-31 (NIV), followed by our interpretation.